I spoke to an old colleague after a long time today.. We re-lived so many moments during our conversation.. Endless talks, food, shopping, celebrations, fighting for fundamental things at work and being the same next morning.. So many memories..
Moving on to new assignment at a new city was definitely risky and challenging but I think I was able to cope up with it well. But somewhere this conversation made me realize that all these years of my work, I had one component which was constant in my life - "A Work Spouse" !! Though the characters changed with time and jobs, but I always had someone.
“A Work Spouse” is that BFF at work or a go-to person with whom we form a tight friendship. When we have office friends, we can relax a little, knowing that they will interpret our reactions and behavior through a more holistic and human lens. Apart from Loyalty, Support and Trust, at the core of these informal but strong work partnerships, there is Love and Respect !
The power of friendship and having someone to support most of the times leads to more productivity and an encouraging work environment. Most of my office BFFs were not from the same department. I had paired with them to get the jobs done. And they were there for me during long working hours, when I was running around loaded with work or had big presentations. I step up for them when they need support and they also do the same form me. Its about being there for the person.
In a corporate setting, it’s reassuring to know there’s someone in office who knows the real “Me,” not just the person I am at work. Someone who understands that its ok to be vulnerable sometimes. Not every friendship has what it takes to withstand a working relationship. You need to have a work ethic similar to your pal, as well as compatible standards in life.
Many times our personal life have implications on our professional life. Health issues, family issues or even positive things like taking up a course, or vacations. There are things that can shift our attitude, our ability to focus and our levels of anxiety. Having someone to share all these leads to much stronger collaborations and a better ability to navigate thru the dramatic ups and downs of professional life.
And there are benefits too..
~ You can depend on them for office supplies, food and sanitary pads.
~ You can be honest with them about anything including a bad hair day.
~ When something eventful happens at work, you have a first person to go for de-briefing.
~ At breakfast, lunch and coffee breaks, you have someone who knows what to order for you. You can call them to get your favorite dish when you are not in a mood to cook. I discovered some of the best food joints, coffee and varieties of tea with my work spouse.
~ You can rely on them to get your work done even if you are away from office.
~ They will stay back at office late hours just to give you company when you have some work.
~ You can be nasty, witty and sarcastic all at the same time and they will still love you.
~ They can be your stress busters, shopping partners and make your most sinful food treats guilt-free.
Work Spouse makes it more fun at work and help the work-life balance. It’s great to have a support system but one has to be sure to set boundaries. More importantly, honour those boundaries.
So here I am.. Looking forward to enjoy gossip, taking breaks and being able to relax with a friend without any concerns or complications.
And before I end, I want to thank the divine to bless me with some amazing people in my life.
Pooja Bal
I know how much I have nagged you to death everyday and remember calling you at 2 am to take me to hospital when I had kidney stone. Cooking tons of Pasta la vista at your home and relish them. Running around together to put the best show at AETL and thanking God every-time we did well. I miss you !
Remember those time for events and going crazy about preparations and ensuring everything was in place. And I remember being there at hospital, holding tiny Anushka in my hands and wrapping her like a Pro :) I still couldn’t figure out where did I learn that from !
Barkha Chourasia
Though we were not so friendly in the beginning, it was crazy once it started. Our work trips for trials at Morena and Delhi.. And I am sure you will never ever forget our Thailand and Phillipines trip together. I cherish those days I spend at your home and I am looking forward to meet you soon at Indore !
Ushma Trivedi
Where to start :) I miss the endless gossip sessions below Apex and being so engrossed that you missed calls from Gaurav.. Sometimes Apurva will finish his after office chores and find us at the same place after 1 hour of closing the office. I miss those times…
Thank you for coming to this life and being there for me always !!